The Perspective Paradox

I work with a lot of people over the course of a year. It’s very interesting to see how two people in very similar circumstances can have very different networks, opportunities, and outcomes.

So what IS the difference? I have found that it has a lot to do with attitude, perspective, and most importantly, a sense of gratitude. Appreciation can positively change EVERYTHING for the better.

Warmly,
Anita

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The Generosity Bonus

Generosity is a wonderful thing. You can do it anywhere and anytime, using lots of money or none at all. The key is what is in your heart – giving without expecting anything in return. When you do, things you never thought possible can show up when you least expect them – and that’s half the fun, right?

So be generous – early and often. In the process, you will expand your opportunities, capacity, and many, many, other terrific things.

Have a great day,
Anita

Beyond Gratitude

I am a big believer in gratitude. If a person can’t find things to feel grateful for, life often becomes an endless slog. I understand that.

While feeling gratitude is essential, it’s incomplete. Feeling gratitude impacts you alone, while expressing gratitude impacts both you and the other person. It takes compassion, courage, and care to share appreciation and the impact is far reaching – in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.

So express gratitude sincerely, specifically, and concretely – and often!!!

Warmly,
Anita

Momentum Magic

For some people taking small, consistent actions is a painfully slow way to reach a goal.

Yet this isn’t necessarily accurate. More important than the size of your step is whether you can actually complete it – again and again and again. If not, a big number times zero is still zero.

On the other hand, momentum is invaluable because as you develop a positive habit, you accelerate your progress, capabilities, and success.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Conflict is Not a Contest

I will admit that I can be a “little” competitive at times. While this is good when playing a game and keeping score, it’s not so good when you have a conflict with another person.

A winner take all approach means that the solution is sub-optimal and that someone will need to lose.

It DOESN’T have to be that way.

Experiment with this: approach the other person with empathy, compassion, and heart. Then look for the underlying needs of you and the other person. Come up with a solution from that place and see how you can both “win”.

Have a great day,
Anita

How Curiosity Leads to Success

Early in my career, one of my mentors told me to always have the mind of a beginning. When I didn’t quite understand when he meant at first, eventually I got it. That is when I began to put curiosity at the front of mind and ask questions before I came to an instant conclusion.

So lead with curiosity and you will see opportunities you might have shut down before they had a chance!

Warmly,
Anita

Gratitude as a Shortcut

Gratitude is certainly a shortcut to many things  – as a start, greater wealth, happiness, and well-being.

Yet there is a catch: gratitude will yield little if you expect rewards. It will only come when you express gratitude without any strings attached. Then the goodies will overflow.

Gratitude is a shortcut and a paradox.

Have a great day,
Anita

Listening to Succeed

Many people listen less than 50% of the time. It’s so easy to be distracted by random thoughts, interruptions, and our ever-present devices. The consequences can be anything from showing up for a meeting at the wrong time to failing to achieve a goal because you have lost the support of other people. What a waste of time, energy, and a whole variety of resources.

So pause, give yourself a break, and take a babystep toward more in-depth listening. First, make an effort to actually give the other person your full attention. It’s fine to disagree. Listening to disagree to actually a step up from not listening or listening to wait for the other person to take a breath so you can jump in and make your point.

Ultimately, you want to listen to understand – have an authentic dialogue. That’s the big win – for you, the other person, and creating greater value for both of you.

Have a great day,
Anita

Courageous Action

I was with a group of friends yesterday and one person (a cool friend) was sharing how she has a BIG goal – so big it’s scary. She questioned whether she was too afraid to take actions toward her goal.

While this surprised me, I kept listening. As she was describing her “less than bold” actions, I was more and more inspired by her. Her actions are clearly based on her purpose, leverage her strengths, and ARE courageous. By the way,size and speed really do not matter.

Way to go, Susie!!!!

Have a great day,
Anita

The Power of “Mistakes”

I work with individuals on their careers and one thing I do is help them prep for interviews. One of the most intimidating questions for them is about making mistakes. It’s funny how no one wants to admit to doing something in error and yet we all do it.

There are people who actually gain power, credibility, and confidence because of their mistakes. Here’s why – they take full responsibility, fix the issue, and use it for their growth, advancement, and greater success.

While no one likes to make a mistake, you can turn things around and win in the end.

Have a great day,

Anita