What’s Your Commitment?

Now that your “resolutions” are two month old – what are your really ready, willing, and able to commit to this year? The answer to this question is more important than any old resolution. The reason is quite simple. Resolutions are often fantasies that we say we want without peeking into the reality and messiness

Recovering From Ill Will

It’s amazing how old grudges, resentments, ill will can taint new relationships and circumstances. Yet clearing them out is easier said than done. Here’s an approach that my Aunt Sylvia recommended when I was a teenager and in the middle of a bout of teenage angst.  She suggested that anytime I felt resentful, frustrated, or

What’s the Net Net of Networking?

“But what I am going to get?” asked a colleague when we talked about attending a networking meeting. “Most of these people are unemployed. They don’t have much to offer me.”  My friend, Rachel, jumped in before I could even get my answer out, “That’s not really the point. But I bet you get more

Victory Could Be Just a Step Away

Do you ever get discouraged when you have a goal that seems a bit out of reach that you really want to achieve NOW? Does your motivation wane when times get tough and progress slows to a crawl? So how do you keep going with commitment, enthusiasm, and resolve?  Individuals who consistently achieve a high

One Person Can Mess Things Up or Make Them Great.

Do you think that if you “cut corners” or cheat just a little that no one will notice? After all, you’re only one person – who will ever know. While it may be comforting to think this way in the moment, it flies in the face of an immutable law – that everything and everyone

Do the Good Times 110%

As you taste the richness of a triple chocolate fudge brownie with mocha chip ice cream on top, enjoy it 110%. If thoughts and feelings of “I really shouldn’t” creep into your consciousness, say NO! Live in total joy in the moment. Relish each and every morsel with the delight of a three year old.

Don’t Put Off Being Happy

Have you ever met someone who has aspirations at this instant, yet plans to pursue them after retirement? Or, do you know a person who struggles now in the hope that life will be better later? While it is important to forge courage, determination, and tenacity with the challenges at hand, it is also essential

Control vs. Influence

A friend once told me, “You can neither control nor guarantee results.” I didn’t like what he said at all and my “inner control freak” actually argued with him.  Over the years, I have come to realize two things. First, the world is full of outside factors, multiple variables, and random events. Second, while we

More Than One Right Answer

Sometimes it appears that there is only one answer, yet this is rarely the case. The next time you “fall in love” with an explanation, solution, or path, stop. Immediately write down at least six possible options. While there are likely dozens of options, six is feasible and will open you heart and mind and

“Un-ruin” Your Day

Ever wonder why some little annoyance can take you completely off track and “ruin” your day? Whenever this happens to me, I invariably create a whole line of justification that I share with anyone willing to listen. The last time I noticed myself fall into this pattern, I paused and reflected.  With a bit of