The Value Game

When you look at a person, organization, or situation, do you find the positive value or just the things that aren’t what you hoped they would be?

If you primarily see the lack, I can almost guarantee that you will find more of what’s missing wherever you go.

On the other hand, when you zero in on the positive value, your brain, mind, and heart will help you find more and more of the good stuff.

Either approach will become reinforcing. I STRONGLY suggest you choose the later.

Have a great day,
Anita

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When Small is Fast

I will admit it, since childhood I have wanted to achieve my goals yesterday. Perhaps it’s a lack of patience or that I can get discouraged fairly easily. Whatever the cause, I wanted to accomplish my goals quickly and this led to a great deal of frustration – even though I cross the finish line more often than not.

That all said, I was looking for ways to accelerate my progress. What I found might surprise you. Friend and colleagues suggested that I acknowledge where I was and start small.  I initially objected as I thought this would make me fall behind. What I learned is that no matter how small that action, I actually achieved whatever I set out to do faster when I completed the task consistently. I also felt great which made me up my game and do a bit more.

As you set goals, determinations, and/or objectives, when you start small you will finish faster than you expect.

Warmly,
Anita

Acknowledge Someone NOW!

Everyone is SO busy with a myriad of things in their lives – from work to family to school and more. In the midst of this action frenzy, it’s easy to take others for granted.

So, to break this too busy “tradition” – pause and positively acknowledge someone in your life. Perhaps that person needs a little boost and you could be the perfect person to provide it.

Have a great day,
Anita

The Perspective Paradox

I work with a lot of people over the course of a year. It’s very interesting to see how two people in very similar circumstances can have very different networks, opportunities, and outcomes.

So what IS the difference? I have found that it has a lot to do with attitude, perspective, and most importantly, a sense of gratitude. Appreciation can positively change EVERYTHING for the better.

Warmly,
Anita

The Generosity Bonus

Generosity is a wonderful thing. You can do it anywhere and anytime, using lots of money or none at all. The key is what is in your heart – giving without expecting anything in return. When you do, things you never thought possible can show up when you least expect them – and that’s half the fun, right?

So be generous – early and often. In the process, you will expand your opportunities, capacity, and many, many, other terrific things.

Have a great day,
Anita

Unstuck Yourself

Feeling stuck is a terrible place to be. It makes each thing you do harder, more time consuming, and less fulfilling. Ugh!

Yet there is a solution and it doesn’t take much willpower, discipline, or brute force. Just take one performance babystep – an action you have complete control over and is small enough to do today. That one tiny move ahead can change your perspective, confidence, and sense of well-being – and help you get unstuck.

Remember, no action is too small. Just do it.

Have a great day,
Anita

Encourage Others

It’s easy to want others to encourage you. At least, I do.

That said, when I need encouragement the most, I do my best to reach out to others and see how I can be a source of encouragement to them. When I do,  it’s a double benefit. The other individual feels better and I find that I am almost instantly encouraged and feel more engaged, confident, and determined.

So encourage someone today!

Warmly,
Anita

Are You Worth the “Risk”?

I was chatting with someone this week and she was questioning why others don’t seem to want to help her. The more we chatted, the clearer it became to both of us that her approach made her appear risky. It wasn’t something massive or even super obvious, it was little things – from not responding in a timely manner to asking for too much too soon. Also, there were a few missing “thank yous” here and there.

So the next time you ask someone to help you, ask yourself: “Am I making myself ‘risky’ to the other person?” If you think you are, you likely are. Adjust your approach accordingly and move ahead.

Have a great day,
Anita

Pause Before You Complain

Oh my gosh! It’s so easy to complain about people, situations, and even the weather. Yet before you do, pause long enough to remember all of the good things you have in your life. When you do, you might just “forget” about complaining altogether. And that would be a very good thing!

Have a great day,
Anita

Your Focus Determines Your Future

We each spend our days focusing on one thing or another. The big question is: On what are you focusing? The answer to that question will largely determine your future.

The best answers are filled with things that increase your courage, confidence, and capacity. So, if this is not your answer today, I strongly encourage you to shift toward the positive and empowering. Take one step today – no matter how small it is.

Warmly,
Anita