Hitting the Reset Button

I was having lunch with a close friend recently and we were both talking about wanting a boost of learning, innovation, and contribution in our lives. While we are each very different, one thing is clear – the shift must start from within. With even a tiny bit of inner transformation, your world can change for the better. Yet even a HUGE bunch of wishing other people and the environment will change to your liking, it just won’t happen.

So, if you want to create a positive shift in your life, look inside and see what teeny tiny thing can be changed as a next step. That will be a wonderful start.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

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Success Stretchers

It’s very interesting about the most powerful success stretchers. Much of the time, they are human beings. These people are often not the ones who cheer us on, think we are brilliant, and make us feel totally valued. While it’s essential and wonderful to have these kind of people in our lives, they can only take us so far.

The success stretchers I’m talking about are the individuals who often annoying, challenge everything we say, and share their negativity early, often, and without even being asked. I recently met with someone who meets all of the criteria. Wow – what a workout! Yet, I welcome the opportunity to work with this person as he makes me focus, be present with him (at all times), and forces me to bring my best self to every meeting we have.

I would go so far as to say “THANK YOU!!!” to this individual. I am better at what I do today because of him.

Have a great day,
Anita

Find the Treasures Within the Junk

I have a friend who is masterful at going to resale shops and finding amazing things. While I see piles and piles of some really yucky looking stuff, she zeros in items that are really the best of the best.

While her approach works on clothing, jewelry, and leather goods, it’s even more powerful when looking at people. Each person has something truly incredible, although it can be (REALLY) hidden. The “fun” thing is in locating the gem in each person. When you do, the other person feels valued, you could develop a new friend, and who knows the wonderful things you could create together!

Have a great day,
Anita

Just One More Step

It’s a funny thing about achieving goals. The difference between success and failure starts with one step – that is either taken or not.

If you take just one more step, there is the possibility that you could accomplish something important to you. That one step (no matter how big or small) is extraordinarily powerful because it is a source of courage, confidence, and momentum.

So the next time you think about stopping, pause long enough to see if one more step is in order for your success and happiness,

Enjoy your day,
Anita

To Achieve Your Goals Faster

What does it take to achieve a goal? Well, lots of things – from making the goal clear and concrete to actually taking a bunch of progressive babysteps?

So why doesn’t everyone take the steps to zoom through their goals? For me, personally, I stall out when I lack encouragement. Think of encouragement as someone or something that inspires courage (this is actually what the word means). I, and many others, just need a bit of a boost on the courage side and the action, momentum, and results are easier to create.

So if you need a little encouragement, find it. An even better idea: give encouragement to another person. Then you both get the boost.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

When Smaller is Better for Success

I hear this again and again – “Go big or go home.” Unfortunately, most people choose too big and give up.

What if you approach your goals and the actions you will take a bit differently? Experiment. Go small. Do what you can absolutely today – given your skills, experience, and time.

If small is still too big. Keep going smaller.

In the end, going small will actually help you go BIG.

Warmly,
Anita

When Being Right is Wrong

I was listening to a program recently and the speaker talked about how being right can actually be a bad thing. My first reaction was “how could that be”? In a world where having the right idea, approach, or solution can lead to greater levels of success – it seemed the speaker made a mistake. That said, I realized if I stopped listened I might fall into the “needing to be right” trap.

So I listened (actually carefully) to the speaker. What he said, made a lot of sense to me.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Advice based on what you believe is right, even if well-intentioned, can derail a conversation and a whole relationship.
  • While being right may make you feel superior, at its core are arrogance and insecurity.
  • Be open to having your mind changed, not out of backing away – but out of incorporating new knowledge that could be useful.

The speaker left me with even more to contemplate – perhaps your mind will be led to deeper thinking on this topic, too.

Enjoy your day,
Anita

Dizzying Options to Success

I was chatting with a friend of a friend this morning who is just starting her career. She is talented and has the whole world open to her. Yet, she is a bit stuck. While everyone has challenges, her biggest one is so many options. I completely understand. Selecting one thing over another can feel scary, daunting, and even risky. Yet once you choose, you can take action, complete the tasks at hand, and then move on to the next goal on your list.

I write this today, so I can read and apply this to my own life.

Enjoy the day,
Anita

Courageous Success

What is the best metric of success? The answer to this question is as varied as individuals’ personal definitions of success which can be based on money, love, and many other things.

That said, one of my mentors once told me that success measured by the level of courage, growth, and advancement required to accomplish whatever the goal – is really the big time. Also, if you have you have an encouraging story to inspire other (especially if you “battled” a few challenge) – even better.

Have a great day,
Anita

Thank You, Too.

I was working on a short presentation on “thank you” with my friend, Melissa, the last few days. The time we spent was fun, thought-provoking, and profound.

It’s a funny thing about “thank yous”. For the words to be meaningful, connected, and moving, they MUST be sincere – with no expectation of receiving anything in return. Yet if we authentically share a “thank you” with another person, it will come back a thousand fold and make us better in the process.

Thank you, Melissa. You made my week.

Enjoy the day,
Anita